WHAT HAPPENS TO SOME GIRLS DURING MARRIAGE STAGE.

Now days life has changed from what it used to be in early 18th and 19th centuries. Now days you will hear girls talk about  these things openly. A case study carried out recently shows that girls face a great challenge when it comes to deciding if to get married or not 

Girls at the age of 18-24 years always attract serious men who are fully ready to marry them, but at this age most of our girls/sisters never wish to hear anything about marriage.

1. I'm too young for that.

2. Who cares about marriage.

3. I'm focused on my books.

4. I want to gather some money first.

5. Marriage is full of problems.

These are some of few statements ladies talk of at their youth age.

But these girls will be having serious & series of sex relationship with small boys of their age, because at that age, they always have high rate of boys, guys and men coming for them, but they will prefer to choose those boys rather than the real men who want to marry them. They are still young to marry right, but they are not young to have sex with boys.

No problem, God is watching you.

At age of 25-27, parents will start asking them the following questions;

1. How far?

2. Don't you have any one yet ?

3. Are you not planning to get married ?

4. Are you seeing that all your mates are getting married ?

5. Don't you know you are getting old?

But mind you, parents only see the outside of their daughters, not knowing there is nothing left inside.

With all these questions by her own parents, she will now be thinking and asking herself things like: My mates are marrying,

1. Does it mean am old enough to marry?

2. Hmmm, how should I go about it?

3. My boyfriends are not serious about asking my hand in marriage.

4. They are not even ready to marry yet.

5. Well, God knows the best. I believe in God.

See oooh...!, she has started putting her blame on God. "God's time is the best" OK, I agree for argument sake.

At age 27-30 they now start looking for men to marry not boys to have sex and play with again.

They will start looking for serious relationship that will lead to marriage, but unfortunately, at this age of 27-30 not all men will be asking their hand in marriage.

You will see them forcing themselves to marry a man who don't want to marry them. Please we beg you, leave us alone.

No single man at age 27-30 will like to marry a lady of 30-35. Now you hear the sisters say age does not matter.

My sister, it matters a lot.

Imagine buying a rotten tomato for $10 and your friend buys a fresh one for $7. Yes, that's how it feels like in marriage too.

Remember you rejected men because you think you were too young. What makes you think your old age does not matter to us?

That's why some men go back to their villages to find young girl to marry when the city ones are not serious about marriage and those that are serious happen to be old for them.

At age 30-35, her friends will ask her:

1. Why are you not married yet by this age of yours?

2. Is it not getting too late for you ?

You will hear her asking you some silly questions like...

1. Are you God?

2. Or do you want to marry me?

3. Is it a crime to be single at 30 or 35?

4. Did I see a man willing to marry me but I refused?

5. God knows the best for everyone please.

At age 30-35 they will start praying like never before, moving from one church to another. If she's a Muslim, she will start praying night prayers, fasting and dressing modestly.

If you ask her for dating, she would burst out to say:

1. My brother, I'm not like them.

2. Am looking for a serious man, a husband not dating.

3. If you truly love me go and see my parents for marriage.

4. I can't do anything with you without my parents concern.

Dear parents, they have started knowing your worth. When she was 18-24, she was doing everything without considering you as parents.

You don't expect a young man of 27-30 to marry you of 30-35 as his house wife when there are younger pretty girls out there.

Even if he chooses to ignore your age and marry you, his family and friends will discriminate you.

Men that will be interested to marry you will be of 45 yrs and above and mind you, those men are married with kids except you wanna be second or third wife.

Everything in life has its own season and time.

There's no lady at age 30-35 seeking for marriage who haven't been approached during 18-24. But by then, they were busily jumping from clubs/parties to hotel rooms looking for FUN not MARRIAGE.

Not everything is about prayer. God who created you has made a plan for you. But when you change the plan or miss the road, please don't disturb the peace of God. Because, He will be busy planning for your younger sister.

Think about this when you have time.

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IF YOU HAVE LIFE TODAY COUNT YOURSELF BLESSED.

You cannot compare yourself to others since everyone has got his own or her own perspective, and world view. Different thinking and reasoning capacity and different style of doing things. What a group of people may like, another group of people may hate it. etc.

TRUE FACTS ABOUT LIFE.

If milk gets bad, it becomes yoghurt. Yoghurt is more valuable than milk. If it gets even worse, it

turns to cheese. Cheese is more valuable than both yoghurt and milk. And if grape juice turns

sour, it transforms into wine, which is even more expensive than grape juice. You are not bad

because you made mistakes. Mistakes are the experiences that make you more valuable as a

person. Christopher Columbus made a navigational error that made him discover America.

Alexander Fleming’s mistake led him to invent Penicillin. Don’t let your mistakes get you down. It

is not practice that makes perfect. It is mistakes we learn from the practice that makes perfect!

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WHAT HUSBANDS NEED FROM WIVES, IS NOT JUST SEX ONLY: Welcome we explore together and find out what else is needed.

Let me take this wonderful opportunity to welcome everyone tuned here for a couple of minutes study about what men expect out of their wives.

Sex is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognised. This shows how important sex is in marriage.

When you look at how agressive men are towards sex you may think that what a man needs from a woman is sex. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married sex is never what he needs from you - maybe let me say it better; "WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN IS NOT SEX."

Many young girls think because they are sexually active and experienced they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex. Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.

There is this young girl who is very beautiful and make sure she is sexually active; due to the fact that she thought sex is all that matters to a man. 

Ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. 

Her sexual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man, up until out of the blue and reason beyond imagination a very handsome good man married her. 

The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately only a year after the wedding the marriage fell on rocks. Within five years three different men came to her way but none could stay. 

The problem was simple. She thought sex was all that matters so she would never submit. 

 

Submission is what men need, not sex. It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his sex drive, but a woman who will submit herself to him, and respect him. Excuse my language, "every woman has v*gina but not every woman has humility." 

When you are a humble woman, you are an expensive jewelry. And a man of integrity will fear to lose you.

What does the holy 📖say, "wife, submit to your husband." 

The reason is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive, and God fearing.

Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.

Sadly, many youngs ladies in our days call submission as "control." And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh."

 If you are not ready to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right senses will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be.

When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love. And love her sincerely. 

There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need sex, but submission. 

We still have wonderful men out there.

 It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the African queen you want to be, but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. 

Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. 

Be your man's queen and be his maid also.

I wish you all the best as you submit in your relationship and marriage. May God bless you with good marriage, my dear sister.

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PLEASE GUYS DIFFERENTIATE BETWEEN A GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL AND A WIFE MATERIAL.

       

Men be careful when you want to marry. Marry a lady who is mature and a wife material, and not just a girlfriend material. You have got all the time and all it takes to learn and know her behaviours during your courtship. It's during this time of courtship that you can be able to learn and understand your woman's behaviours. Ladies should also use the same time as opportunity to learn and know if the man they are in courtship with or planning to marry have true qualities of a husband material and not a boyfriend material. 

         This is always a two way traffic and both parties should take responsibility for their own better to ensure that, at the end of everything, there comes a wedding ceremony day. You must ensure that you are being united to the right person with whom you will not complain about that things are not Ok. It takes wisdom and prayers to achieve the best out of all this. During courtship time some people are tricky and hide off their bad behaviours. They pretend to show off good behaviours only. So it's good enough and wise for these partners to imply or use some technical tricks in order to capture the true character of a person they are soon marrying.

          I have seen a case where a marriage ceremony was carried successfully. After a short period of time of staying together, ie two months later the couple separated or divorced when the lady was pregnant. Right now it's two years ago since seperation occurred, the lady and the kid came back home to her parents and the man is staying alone at his parents home. So using such examples, you can easily realize that this couple did not take time to study one another's behaviour before being united as husband and wife.

         Let us look at this  four illustrations that shows differences between a wife material and a girlfriend material.

(1). GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL  IS A SPENDER

        When you're dating a girlfriend, your expenses will triple. You'll be spending as if you're paying tax to federal government on the relationship.

Take a girlfriend to a fast food restaurant, she places her orders without caring about the price and your salary, and she NEVER tries to split the bill at any time. She always order high price food and will always show love for expensive products before the man.

WIFE MATERIAL IS CONSERVATIVE.

       When you're dating a woman who can be a wife material, take her to a fast food restaurant, she'll ask how much for an item before she orders it, and she'll even refuse to pick an item with an exorbitant price or high price, unless you insist. Sometimes where prices are not fixed she will try to bargain for a lower price bid. Sometimes she can just decide to request you to allow her pay for the bill if she is a working class woman.

        A wife material lady will always try to save you Money, She considers your pocket and she cares for your tomorrow. A wife material will always help you some household duties before you ask her to do so mostly when she pays you a visit at your house.

(2). GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL BELONGS TO EVERYBODY 

       Girlfriend is always receiving calls 24/7 (even in your presence) as if she's a customer care agent. On her phone, a girlfriend is always on her social media platforms chatting people.

Girlfriend is always coming down from different cars,

       She's always flirting, collecting gifts and cash from different suitors without shame. She even demands it from them if they don't give her. She'll make trouble if you confront her. 

Check her phone at your peril, she'll tell you "there's nothing going on" but her chats/friendship with other guys is too close for comfort. 

WIFE MATERIAL BELONGS TO ONE MAN

         A Wife is not available for every Man.

She's a One Man's Lady, she rebuffs suitors and their gifts. She is always sensitive and conscious about the language men use in her presence so she will easily rebuke men who try to seduce her.

(3). GIRLFRIEND IS AFTER MATERIAL THINGS.

A Girlfriend is like a Tax Collector.On HER birthday, you'll take her out.On YOUR birthday you'll still take her out. 

Christmas that is JESUS'S birthday, she'll still collect gifts from you and if you don't buy for her she will bitterly. 

Valentine, Easter, New Year, every season is an opportunity for her to collect gifts and money from you, but she doesn't reciprocate.

WIFE MATERIAL COLLECTS AND GIVES

A Wife material will plan a surprise birthday for you on your birthday, no matter how small.

She doesn't just only receive, she at time gives. 

(4). GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL IS REBELLIOUS

A girlfriend gives Headache

She uses equal rights and feminism spirit. 

She always prefer good gifts from you and most of the time she will prefer to visit you when you have money or when you can take her out.

         Thank you so much for reading this article about differentiating between a girlfriend material and a wife material. May God bless you and give you wisdom in choosing the right person who can suit your life. That person who can understand you and accept you the way you are. God is not happy when we live life full of complaints and   fighting every time just after marriage. God likes people who live together happily and thankfully praising HIS name.

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REASONS WHY THERE IS STILL FIGHT IN MARRIAGES.

FACTORS THAT CONTRIBUTE TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE:

‭Ephesians 5:33 NIV‬

[33] However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

https://bible.com/bible/111/eph.5.33.NIV1. Pure love

2. Sufficient income 

3. Trustworthiness 

4. Caring

5. Love of God

6. Salvation way of life

7. Good Love and Security 

8. Good friends and Mentors

9. Prayers and Supplication 

10. Transparency 

11. Faithfulness 

12. Accountability

13. Proper and Careful listening 

         If you consider all these factors listed here and even more, then they could help you manage and maintain a successful marriage that doesn't have breakups. A marriage that is peaceful and has harmony. A marriage that many people can admire and use it as a good example in the whole community. A marriage that can teach people what is a marriage. The fact that many women turned into single mothers, is because they failed to do one or two or all of the listed factors. 

       The listed factors are not easy to perform in ones life unless you do the following but only starting with accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and personal saviour who now attracts these factors and makes them to be part of the whole process ie if perfecting your marriage.

1. They require the hand of God. 

2. They require the intervention of the holy spirit. 

3.They require a bold heart

4. They require a self dedication 

5. They require daily training and practice.

6. They require serious partners only 

 

FACTORS THAT COUSE FIGHTING AND BREAKOUTS 

1. Unfaithfulness 

2. Lack of responsibility 

3. Lack of transparency 

4. Poor communication 

5. Arrogance

6. Lack of counselling and teachings for life       issues.

7. Cheating 

8. Use of Drugs and Drug abuse.

9. Bad friends Company 

10. Misunderstanding/Lack of understanding 

11. Poor reputation towards another person.

12. Ignorance 

13. Relationships outside marriage " Kenyans call it "Mpango wa Kando." Meaning a distant relationship outside your real marriage.

      Many factors including the listed above cause fighting in marriages and breakups. Many people don't allow God to control their lives from the first day or point of marriage. They think in marriage everything is automatically done. They forget that God has a major role in a marriage, every single day. It's important to understand that God can only be effective in our marriages if we allowed Him to do so by accepting the call to surrender our lives to Jesus. God uses His word to find a ways into our marriages and start to control it. In a marriage where there is no light or the word of God established, the devil becomes the sole operator. All factors that lead to breaking of a marriages, 100% originate from principalities of satan because it's satan who has full access to the marriage other than God. Any time in life we fail to give our lives to God to save it, we alternatively and automatically give it to satan who then gains full access and control thus destroys it by ensuring that the above listed factors do happen in the very marriage.

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