THE POWER OF A CONSCIOUS KISS.

THE POWER OF A CONSCIOUS KISS...✍🏽

For so many of us kissing is a prelude, something we do that leads to something else. And for some people it’s something they have to do to get to the next step.

Conscious Kissing is its own incredible moment of being. There is nothing else other than the delicious sensation, the feeling, the taste of our mouths.

Kissing is one of the most intimate acts we can share with a partner, in fact there are times when kissing is more intimate than sex. Kissing brings us closer together than anything. Because kissing is so intimate, it also expresses our emotional state.

Kissing is the sharing of our essence. In the exchange of fluids and breath we mix ourselves with our lovers.

Our kiss is a communication. As well as being arousing it’s a journey we take our partners and ourselves on. In the delicate touch of lips and tongues we tell where we are. Our intention, our love and our desire are communicated in the moment.

We can bring ourselves into presence during our kiss. It’s not just a prelude to sex, rather a world of sensation and emotion on its own. When we’re present during a kiss it has no need to go anywhere, be anything other than the beautiful connection it is.

We can ride the waves of gentleness and fire, kissing slow and soft, hard and deep and urgent. Our mouths become the expression of all that is within us at that moment. My hand in your hair pulling you to me as I share my fire with you. My hands on your face surrounding you, enclosing us in connection.

Kissing is playing, celebrating our joy in each other.

Kissing is sex and lovemaking on its own. We get lost in the taste, in the sensation. My whole body, my whole being, my heart is expressed in my kiss. It’s a dance of energy as we move in and out and around each other. It’s the song of our intimacy in our sighs and our moans. And it’s the portal to lovemaking divine in the sacred element of our kiss.

There are reflexology points on the tongue.

There is a connection between the tongue and the brain. We often hold a great deal of tension in our tongues, which is linked to tension in the jaws. The more relaxed your tongue can be, the quieter your mind can become.

Kissing becomes a meditation, on sensuality, on presence.

When I teach massage and touch it begins with a Heart Connection.

You can do the same with your mouth.

Connect with your Heart, feel your Heart Centre in the middle of your chest.

Maybe even put your hands there.

As you breathe, imagine that you’re breathing in to your Heart.

There might be a feeing, a sensation, a warmth, a colour…

As you breathe, allow that to get stronger, brighter, more intense…

Then as you breathe, allow that to move to your mouth, let it be in your lips, in your tongue, in your teeth, everywhere…

When your mind wanders during your kiss, come back to your breath.

Then focus on the feelings and sensations you’re experiencing. This will intensify the moment.

Look into your lover’s eyes.

Bring the energy from your Heart into your gaze.

Approach them slowly.

Allow the first moment to be soft, to be gentle, a greeting, a melting…

Explore all of their mouth, their lips, their teeth, their tongue…

Suck their top lip into your mouth, then their bottom lip…

Gently bite and nibble their lips, then not so gently…

As you suck their top lip, they suck your bottom lip…

Be absolutely passive, allow them to kiss and explore you, to lick your lips, circle their tongue on your lips, in your mouth…

Mirror each other’s dance, whatever they do, you do…

Sigh your breath, your moan, your love, your desire into their mouth…

Slowly, so slowly you kiss…

And then a wave of passion as I grab you with my arms, squeeze you as I kiss you hard and deep…

Change your position, the angle of your mouth on theirs…

Laugh as you kiss…

Look into each other’s eyes as you kiss…

Suck their tongue into your mouth…

Surround their mouth with yours…

Lick outside their lips…

Remember: Kiss from your heart, it will be an expression of your love and God bless us all.

#romance

#marriage

#love

DON'T DESPISE OTHERS DESPITE THEIR NATURE.

DON'T DESPISE ANYONE REGARDLESS OF  THEIR NATURE.  

When I was getting set to marry my wife Anwinli, Pastor x called her for a meeting and told her not to marry me. In shock, she asked him why, and he said "Ohis doesn't have a future. He is a miserable university graduate. He cannot afford to rent a house, he squats in his pastor's house in Asaba and anytime he is in Benin he sleeps in his mother's house. He doesn't have any direction. He is like a 'glorified' house boy, a church rat and we use him to do the dirty jobs in church. Most times he cannot afford transport and often takes 'along'. His ministry is not working and will never work..."

He went further to say, "So there is this other guy I think will be good for you..."

In great despair, Anwinli told me about the conversation. She was amazed that I was not a bit sad about it.

In affirmation, I told her, "Pastor x is right, his opinion about me is my current reality which is a fact but the truth is, I may not know my tomorrow but I know the God that knows my future. Follow me as I follow the One who knows our tomorrow."  

She didn't hesitate to ignore the odds and stick with me. Eventually, we became a team, Pastor x was very angry and we became his enemies.

However, few months down the line, I had a big break!

 God blessed my labour, I made a big hit! I made my first million at age 25 from a multimedia contract.

Quickly, I established a Multimedia Outfit that had a working staff on my payroll. God's blessing was so evident that I was opportuned to buy my 1st car and secure a comfortable apartment. 

It was the media outfit that later gave birth to 'The Winlos' you celebrate today.

Two years after, The Winlos became a global success. Our union is a success, and we hitherto have quite a handful of people from several nations of the world looking up to us as role models. 

-LESSON-

👉🏻Listen precious one, when God is writing your story, it doesn't matter who tries to write you off. People will write you off because they think they know you. They see you and they think that is your end. What they don't realize is the fact that all they know about you is the preamble to your Introduction and the main deal loading.

👉🏻Regardless of how a person's status is, we should NEVER despise anyone because everyone has a pregnant future and you have no clue what he or she will deliver. 

👉🏻Most leaders will rather condemn young ones than help them to the place of their destiny. As a leader, you must not like the choices of your followers. Do not be seen fighting them instead pray for them!

Leaders often exclude themselves from their followers process and are quick to call them 'sons' and 'daughters' when they succeed. This isn't right, don't be this kind of leader.

Not neglecting the fact that years later Pastor x introduced me to his friends saying 'this is one of my sons I'm proud of'. I was shocked. 

Indeed, SUCCESS HAS MANY FRIENDS. 

On the other hand, 

👉🏻Ladies, when God directs you to a man, his material level shouldn't be an issue if you understand the fact that you are a "favour carrier". The Bible says any man that marries you has obtained FAVOUR. The moment Anwinli agreed to marry me despite my obvious situation, something in the atmosphere changed, doors began to open, why? She understood she's favour!

Finally, people will always remember you for two things. The good you did for them or the good you never did. What part are you playing in that person's life? Your call!

Let's be part of lifting people up, giving them direction, giving them platforms, encouraging them and when they grow they will always remember you for good.

We Love YOU!

MEN WHO ABUSE WOMEN.

Men who abuse women... physically, mentally, emotionally... are often some of the nicest, most charming, friendly men you’ll ever meet.

And that’s exactly how they get away with it.

They smile in public. They hold conversations with ease. They seem respectful, well-mannered, maybe even generous. To the outside world, they’re the “good guy.” The one everyone likes. The one no one would ever suspect.

But behind closed doors? It’s a different story.

That charm turns cold. That “gentle tone” becomes condescending. That kindness flips into manipulation. The same man who compliments strangers can go home and slowly break down a woman’s confidence until she no longer recognizes herself.

Abuse doesn’t always show up with bruises. Sometimes it looks like silent control. Like guilt trips. Like gaslighting her until she questions her reality. Like isolating her from friends and family with a smile on his face and “good intentions” in his words. It’s emotional warfare… dressed up in charisma.

And the worst part? When she finally speaks up… people don’t believe her. Because he’s so nice. Because he would never. Because he seems like such a great guy. So she stays quiet. Or worse, she starts to wonder if she’s the problem. That’s how deep emotional abuse runs.

This is why so many women stay longer than they should. Not because they’re weak, but because psychological abuse is confusing. It’s a cycle of love and harm… of “I’m sorry” and “You made me do it.” It’s being made to feel crazy for having boundaries. It’s having your pain questioned because he smiles in public and only shows his darkness in private.

So let’s stop equating niceness with goodness. Let’s stop assuming someone can’t be an abuser because they’re well-liked or successful or soft-spoken. Abusers don’t wear name tags. They don’t always yell. Some of them walk through life with perfect masks... and leave destruction behind closed doors.

Believe her when she says something’s not right.

Support her even when it doesn’t “look” like abuse.

Because sometimes the most dangerous man in the room…

is the one everyone’s busy praising.

THE BEST WAY TO SERVE MEALS TO YOUR HUSBAND.

HOW TO SERVE YOUR HUSBAND'S MEAL

Some wives are used to buying fanciful bowls, plates, and serving dishes just to decorate their stores or kitchens.

They serve their husbands with any available dish, but when a visitor arrives, they go into the store to bring out the best plan. 

Listen carefully: NOBODY IS SUPERIOR TO YOUR HUSBAND.

To have the best of marriage, you must serve your husband’s meal as a king. If you have never been to a palace to see how a king is served, watch how it’s done in movies.

 just put rice and stew in one dirty flat plate for your husband. Serve the stew separately, and if possible, the meat or fish separately.

Get a beautiful cup for his water or juice.

Don’t allow your kids, siblings, housemaid, or anyone else to serve your husband’s meal (except for genuine reasons). Serve your king by yourself.

When you want to serve his meal, serve with honour and respect. Don’t just dump his food on the table.

You should also eat together with your husband sometimes. And if for any reason you have eaten before him, ensure you sit with him occasionally and ask if he is okay with the meal.

When he finishes eating, pack the plates yourself. The only place most men experience excellent meal service is at eateries or during outings. When you serve and treat your husband like a king, he will see you and treat you like a queen.

But when you serve or treat him like a slave, he might go out to get a better service—then you must not complain.

This teaching may sound odd to some, but for those who desire a peaceful and lasting marriage, it is a proven key to success.

A man’s heart moves toward where he is treated with respect.

Remember, little things we often ignore go a long way in keeping our homes happy and successful.

A husband and wife who eat together and pray together can conquer every marital obstacle.

WHAT YOU OUGHT TO KNOW TODAY

Many People assume strong relationships come from big romantic highs—surprise trips, expensive gifts, perfect proposals...✍🏽

Those fade quickly.

What actually sustains a partnership is steady, everyday reliability.

Psychologist John Gottman’s decades of research on thousands of couples found that stable, happy relationships maintain roughly 5 positive interactions for every 1 negative one, especially during conflict. Outside arguments, the ratio can climb even higher.

This doesn’t require constant grand effort. It builds through ordinary, repeated small acts:

- Remembering and asking follow-up questions about something minor they mentioned (a work stress, a friend’s news).

- Choosing patience and a calm tone when you’re irritated or tired.

- Doing exactly what you promised, even trivial things like picking up groceries or sending a quick text.

- Turning toward their “bids” for connection—small reaches like sharing a funny meme or complaining about traffic—instead of ignoring or dismissing them.

- Offering unasked help on tasks they dislike.

- Checking in genuinely: “How’s your head after that meeting?”

These accumulate into a buffer of trust and goodwill.

When real problems hit—financial strain, health issues, family drama—that reservoir of small positives prevents disconnection. Without it, one fight can spiral.

Big gestures impress briefly but can’t replace daily dependability.

Consistency isn’t flashy. It’s the quiet work that makes love last. Focus on the routine positives. They matter more than the fireworks.