THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE FROM BIBLICAL PERSPECTIVE POINT OF VIEW.

The purpose of marriage from christian religious perspective.

      It’s for the union between a man and a woman.  For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh.Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.    

Mark 10:7-9 -- Marriage is God’s plan• 

---  Marriage is between a man and a woman• 

MARRIAGE IS TO BE PERMANENT   

 It’s for the multiplication of the human race. But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth.  Malachi 2:15We are all alive here today because some couples decided to get together.           It’s for protection for kids. God invented marriage for the protection of children. We all know that kids grow better, healthier, stronger when they grow up in a stable family with a mom and a dad. God knew that human children needed a safe environment.   

          It’s for holiness. God created marriage for the perfection of our character. It is in relationships that we learn to be unselfish and to be loving. And no relationship has a greater impact on your life than marriage, if you get married. Maturity and the purpose of life is to grow up and realize it’s not all about you.

 IT’S FOR THE CONSTRUCTION OF SOCIETY.

        Marriage is the fundamental building block of every community, church, state, nation, society and culture. If you know anything about history you know that where marriages are strong, cultures and nations are strong. You know that wherever marriages and families are weak, cultures and nations are in decline. 

          It’s for reflection of our union with Christ. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 

         For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:25-32

 Understanding the Differences Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. 1 Peter 3:7 Humor: Scientists on how to name a computer:  he or she?  A computer is a HE1.  Turn them on in order to get their attention2. They should solve the problem, but instead, they are the problem3.  As soon as you commit to one, you will wait for a little while you could get a better modelA computer is a SHE because:

(1.)No one but their creator can understand them

(2.)The smallest mistake is stored for long term memory

(3.)  After buying it you spend more time on accessories.  

COMMON CRITICISMS BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN 

Men say that women are: •

- Too emotional• 

-  Don’t feel the pressure to provide

- Talk too much Women say men are:

-  Not sensitive• Don’t share housework• 

-  Don’t listen

Women say that men: 

-  Are insensitive•  

-  Don’t share in housework• 

-  Don’t listen

BASIC DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN:

1.Womens' right brain is caring, mens' left brain is logical. In a 1981 study by Dr. Rogger Sherry from age of 16 to 26, two chemicals are released that slow development of right size in men. Therefore we as men don’t remember the same. We react to stuff not the same. Men say 3 times more in public than in private, women opposite. 

(2).Women enjoy the process; men focus on the goal.  Women love romance; men love sex. Men will give emotion to get sex; women will give sex to get emotions. Drink water from your own cistern, and running water from your own well. Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets? Proverbs 5:15-16Man is a fountain; the woman is a well. 

(3).Women need sensitivity; men need space.  Men, when stressed, become focused and withdrawn; women become overwhelmed and emotionally involved. Men feel better by solving a problem; women feel better by talking about the problem.

(4).Men have authority; women have intuition. Men, don’t be dictators. Women, don’t be manipulators. 

 His Needs and Her Needs.  

Man’s Primary Needs. 

         Honor and respect Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:33 

      (1). Honor him where you want him to be, not where he is at right now.  

     (2). Sex Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 1 Corinthians 7:3 It’s not just his want, but his need.

    (3). Shared activity Now it came to pass, when he had been there a long time, that Abimelech king of the Philistines looked through a window, and saw, and there was Isaac, showing endearment to Rebekah his wife. Genesis 26:8 The word “endearment” (Strongs h6711) means to laugh, sport, mock, to jest, make sport, toy with. Isaac and Rebekkah were playing and having fun. 

    (4). Support at homeThat they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. Titus 2:4-5

         WOMAN’S PRIMARY NEEDS 

SECURITY 

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her. Ephesians 5:25 

(1) A woman needs her man to be a sacrificial, sensitive and faithful provider. This makes her feel secure. 

(2.) Soft, non-sexual affectionLet the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.  1st Corinthians 7:3God has called husbands to render affection to his wife.

(3.)   Open and honest communicationHusbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. Ephesians 5:25-28 Jesus washes His church with His words; husbands must do the same! 

(4.)   Leadership For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Ephesians 5:23 Man is the head that should lead the family, and woman is the crown that beautifies the family!  An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones. Proverbs 12:4 

          Covenant, Not a Contract Yet you say, “For what reason?” Because the LORD has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously, yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant. Malachi 2:14  The concept of covenant is important in the Bible. The word testament is really another word for covenant. The Bible is comprised of two parts, the Old Covenant and the New Covenant (Old Testament and New Testament).

5 COVENANTS IN THE BIBLE:

1. Noahic Covenant (Genesis 9)

2. Abrahamic Covenant (Genesis 12, 15)

3. The Mosaic Covenant (Exodus 19-24)

4. The Davidic Covenant (2 Samuel 7)

5. The New Covenant (Jeremiah 31)

COVENANT VS CONTRACT:

(1). A contract involves part of your life; a covenant involves your whole life.

(2). A contract has an expiration; a covenant is for life.

(3). The contract is written in ink, the covenant is written in blood. 

WHAT IS A MARRIAGE COVENANT?

     A contract is an agreement between two people for the purpose of protecting their rights, limiting their responsibilities, and safeguarding their interests. A covenant is an unconditional surrendering and laying down of your life and your rights while increasing your responsibilities and safeguarding the interests of your covenant mate.

 THE IMPORTANCE OF A COVENANT MINDSET.

(1)You have to see marriage as a covenant if you want to be committed to marriage. 

(2).  Have a greater commitment to God than you are to the constitution of marriage.

(3).  Develop a greater commitment to marriage than you are to each other. 

(4).  Remove the word “divorce” from your marriage conversations.

(5).  Don’t let thoughts “I made a mistake marrying this person” take root in your mind. 

(6).  Prenuptial agreements are a sign that you don’t view marriage as a covenant.

(7).   If your marriage becomes permanent, the problems become temporary. If your marriage is temporary, your problems might become permanent. 

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