THE MEANING OF MARRIAGE.

If your goal is marriage, stop looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend. Do not say you're looking for a relationship that will hopefully grow into marriage. The emphasis here is boyfriend, girlfriend, and relationship. The standard of admission for these is so far below marriage that you can waste your entire life in them and never see marriage.

Marriage is a very different game than mere love relationships. It requires a certain state of mind and degree of maturity. That's why the Bible says that whoever finds a wife finds a good thing. You find her being a wife before you even marry her. This means that she evolved herself into a wife before she got married.

By implication, you have to be a husband to find a wife because you can't relate with what you're not.

We always look out for what mirrors us. 

The reason many people's relationships never go far is because they are carrying the energy of a boyfriend or girlfriend themselves. They accept temporary status and give great importance to something as vaporous as a relationship. 

A person who is minded on marriage transforms themselves into a husband or wife first. This is how they employ their singleness season, not hoping from one fling or entanglement to another. 

When they finally step into the market, they're looking for a ready wife or husband too. That's why they can never date for years because they already did their preparations.

They also get married promptly because they have a reason to get married. Only in marriage will they unpack physical intimacy. Only in marriage will they find the companionship they need in order to soar.

These people have sensitivity to seasons, and, like the men of Issachar in the Bible, they have an understanding of the times and what they ought to do at every season. 

Did you know that to win in life, you don't need to be a freak of nature or a remarkable genius? All you need to do is to understand the times. 

Half of winning in life comprises simply in showing up. If y