8 MISTAKES MEN SHOULD NOT DO WHEN DEALING WITH WOMEN.

8 MISTAKES MEN SHOULD NEVER MAKE WHEN DEALING WITH WOMEN

Listen up, men. The modern dating market is a battlefield — and most of you are walking into it blind. You confuse attention for interest and kindness for attraction. Then you wonder why you keep losing. The truth? The game has rules. Learn them or perish.

Here are 8 brutal mistakes you should NEVER make when it comes to women:

1️⃣ NEVER EAT A WOMAN’S PY.*

A man who does this is giving away his power. You think it’s intimacy — she sees submission. A woman should be the one showing her desire for you, not the other way around. Don’t worship her body; make her earn yours. The moment you start bowing for pleasure, you stop leading as a man.

2️⃣ NEVER SLEEP WITH ANOTHER MAN’S WIFE.

That’s not bravery — it’s stupidity. You’re signing your own death warrant for a temporary thrill. You risk your peace, your safety, your name, and maybe your life — for someone else’s property. There are countless women out there; don’t destroy your life chasing forbidden fruit. Be disciplined.

3️⃣ NEVER PROPOSE ON YOUR KNEES.

You kneel to God and your parents — not to a woman. Love doesn’t require submission. Stand tall. Propose with confidence, not desperation. A real man doesn’t beg for a “yes” — he offers partnership. If she needs a performance to say yes, she’s not the one.

4️⃣ NEVER CHASE HER — ATTRACT HER.

The more you chase, the less she values you. Desperation kills attraction faster than anything else. Focus on your mission, your fitness, your money, your peace. Build a life that commands respect — not one that depends on female validation. When you’re the prize, she’ll pursue you.

5️⃣ NEVER ASSUME A WOMAN CAN’T DESTROY YOU.

Ask Samson. Ask Adam. The wrong woman can bring down the strongest man. One wrong attachment can cost you your empire, your focus, and your future. Don’t underestimate emotional manipulation — it’s more dangerous than any bullet. Stay alert.

6️⃣ NEVER LEAD WITH YOUR WALLET.

When money is your strategy, you’ll only attract parasites. If you buy her attention, you’ll have to keep paying to keep her. Real women are drawn to purpose, not pockets. Don’t use your money to buy love; use your ambition to build legacy.

7️⃣ NEVER CONFUSE ATTENTION FOR AFFECTION.

Just because she laughs at your jokes or texts you daily doesn’t mean she wants you. Women know how to use attention as bait — especially when they see you starving for validation. Learn to read energy, not emojis.

8️⃣ NEVER PUT WOMEN ABOVE YOUR PURPOSE.

The moment you prioritize her over your mission, you lose both. Your purpose is your backbone — lose it, and you’ll crawl through life. Build yourself, master yourself, and watch women align naturally with your power.

FINAL WARNING:

Weak men chase pleasure; strong men chase purpose. Every mistake listed above costs you power, peace, or progress. Stay sharp. Stay focused. Women respect men who respect themselves first. Don’t trade your crown for temporary comfort.

WHAT HUGGING AND KISSING DO TO PEOPLE.

THE HIDDEN SPIRITUAL DANGER OF SEX, HUGGING & KISSING — MEN, READ THIS CAREFULLY

Listen up, men.

This generation treats intimacy like a game, but what you don’t realize is — every physical act between a man and a woman opens a spiritual door. You think it’s just pleasure, but it’s deeper than that. Every time you touch, kiss, or lay with a woman, something in you connects, transfers, and transforms — for better or worse.

Let’s break it down:

1. HUGGING 🫂 — HEART TO HEART CONNECTION

When you hug a woman heart to heart, body to body — your spirits meet.

That’s why a simple hug can calm your soul or destroy your peace.

You can hug yourself into comfort or chaos depending on who you’re hugging.

Not every embrace is innocent. Some carry energy that drains you long after you let go.

CHECK WELL.

2. KISSING 💋 — MOUTH TO MOUTH EXCHANGE OF ENERGY

When you kiss, you’re not just sharing lips — you’re exchanging breath, spirit, and vibration.

Couples who kiss often begin to think alike, act alike, even look alike.

That’s spiritual chemistry.

But remember — you can also kiss yourself into confusion, depression, and loss.

Not every kiss is passion. Some are poison.

CHECK WELL.

3. SEX  — SOUL TO SOUL TRANSFER

When you have sex with someone, your spirits merge.

It’s not just physical — it’s spiritual, emotional, mental, and energetic.

You bond with their soul, their demons, their curses, their pasts, and their pain.

If she carries darkness, you inherit part of it.

If she carries blessings, you tap into it.

That’s why soul ties are real — they can either lift you or destroy you.

Now listen carefully, brother.

Before you fall in love, ask God for direction.

Before you imagine kissing someone, think twice.

Before lust pushes you toward random women, remember — salt and sugar look alike.

What looks sweet can ruin your entire life.

That “beautiful night out” could be your spiritual downfall.

That “casual fling” could open doors of bondage that will take years to close.

Discipline isn’t weakness — it’s wisdom.

Control your urges. Protect your seed.

Your manhood is not public property — it’s private property.

Not every woman deserves access to your spirit.

A real man doesn’t move with lust — he moves with purpose.

Zip up. Focus. Build. Lead.

Because what you join your body to — you join your destiny to.

FINAL WARNING:

One wrong woman can delay your progress for years.

One wrong soul tie can chain your spirit.

Be intentional about who you touch, love, or lay with.

Because pleasure fades — but the consequences remain.

THE DEATH OF FESTUS FRED AMINO.

Today, with heavy hearts we mourn a dear friend, a brother, and a companion on life’s journey, Festus Amimo. His passing has left a deep pain in our hearts, a silence that words struggle to fill.

Festus was more than just a friend.

He was a man of kindness, humility, and unwavering loyalty. He had a way of making those around him feel valued, heard, and supported. Whether through his laughter, his counsel, or his quiet presence, Festus touched the lives of many in ways that will never be forgotten.

It is difficult to accept that someone so full of life, so generous in spirit, has left us so suddenly. But even in our sorrow, we give thanks for the time God allowed us to share with him. We thank God for his friendship, his courage, and the love he freely gave.

MEET KENYA'S EARLY LEADERS.

ERIC EDWARD KHASAKHALA: THE LOYALIST WHO NEVER ROSE 

Eric Edward Khasakhala’s political life reads less like a triumphalist independence story and more like a quiet indictment of how power actually works in Kenya. He was present at the creation of the republic, sat in the rooms where the future was negotiated, and helped assemble the machinery of the postcolonial state. Yet when authority was finally distributed, he remained permanently adjacent to it—useful, visible, but never decisive.

He entered politics from education, not agitation. Where many of his contemporaries rose through confrontation and theatrical defiance, Khasakhala came armed with administration, discipline, and belief in institutions. He believed that independence would be secured not merely by removing colonial rulers but by building systems that could outlive personalities. That belief shaped his career and ultimately limited it. Kenya’s early political order did not reward builders; it rewarded consolidators.

As a senior KADU figure, Khasakhala backed federalism at a time when the momentum of history was moving in the opposite direction. The postcolonial elite wanted a strong center, not empowered regions. When KADU collapsed into KANU, Khasakhala crossed over, but the suspicion never lifted. Federalists were tolerated as a gesture of national unity, not embraced as equals. He survived politically, but survival came at the cost of influence.

His tenure in education revealed both his strengths and his fatal misreading of Kenyan politics. As Assistant Minister for Education, he pursued the unglamorous work of restructuring early education and expanding local capacity. While others courted donors and scholarships abroad, he focused on schools at home. It was sound policy but poor spectacle. In a political culture that rewarded visibility over durability, his achievements were too quiet to protect him.

For all his conciliatory instincts, Khasakhala was unyielding when it came to land and identity. His defense of Bunyore interests, particularly during the Maseno debates, exposed the limits of post-independence unity. Parliament was civil on the surface, but beneath it lay unresolved colonial boundaries and ethnic competition. When Khasakhala refused to retreat, he crossed an invisible line. The system can forgive ambition; it rarely forgives defiance without numbers.

His greatest political loyalty became his greatest vulnerability. His close association with Tom Mboya placed him on the wrong side of power after Mboya’s assassination. In a period defined by fear and consolidation, neutrality was impossible. Khasakhala did not renounce friendships or rewrite his past to please the regime. He attended the funeral. He remained visible. He was quietly marked. From then on, advancement ended. He would serve, but he would not rise.

The 1969 electoral defeat was less a personal failure than a warning shot. It demonstrated that seniority offered no protection in a system increasingly hostile to independent political bases. Courts provided no remedy, and the lesson was unmistakable: legitimacy now flowed from the center, not the electorate. Though he later returned to Parliament, the rules had changed. By the time of the mlolongo elections, his fate was administrative rather than democratic.

Under Moi, Khasakhala was managed with courtesy and containment. Assistant ministerial roles, cultural leadership, ceremonial respect—enough to honor his history, never enough to empower his future. Others with sharper elbows and looser loyalties rose past him. He remained faithful, even when faith brought no reward.

In the end, Khasakhala’s career exposes a hard truth about Kenyan politics: integrity may earn admiration, but it rarely earns power. He was too principled to conspire, too loyal to defect, too restrained to dominate. He believed politics could be ethical in a system built on calculation.

In death, the nation gathered to praise what it had sidelined in life. Unity was proclaimed, virtues celebrated, loyalty honored. But the applause came too late to alter the verdict of his career. Eric Edward Khasakhala did not fail in politics. Politics failed to find use for a man like him.

HOW TO LIVE A HAPPY LIFE IN MARRIAGE.

MEN, READ THIS BEFORE YOU DESTROY YOUR OWN HOME

Too many husbands lose their wives’ respect not because they cheat, but because they don’t know how to correct her without breaking her spirit.

You think you’re “leading,” but you’re actually crushing the very heart that’s supposed to support you.

You think shouting makes you a man — it makes you insecure.

You think comparing her to other women will motivate her — it will make her resent you.

Listen, brother…

If you want a wife who respects you, admires you, and stands by you for life, you must correct her like a king — not condemn her like an enemy.

A real man can lead his home without wounding his woman.

Here’s how:

1. LOWER YOUR VOICE

She’s your wife, not your child. Speak with authority, not aggression. Calm words carry more weight than loud ones.

2. DO IT IN LOVE

Correction without love becomes condemnation. When you speak from love, she’ll hear your heart, not your anger.

3. STOP CRITICIZING

Criticism kills connection. Correction builds growth. Offer solutions, not insults.

4. PRAISE HER FOR WHAT IS RIGHT

If you only correct and never appreciate, you’ll drain her spirit. Praise her effort, not just results.

5. NEVER DO IT BEFORE YOUR CHILDREN

A king doesn’t embarrass his queen in front of the kingdom. Correct her privately, honor her publicly.

6. NEVER DO IT IN PUBLIC

You destroy her confidence when you shame her in front of others. Real men protect their wives’ image, even in conflict.

7. DON’T CORRECT IN ANGER

When you’re angry, stay silent. Words from fury wound deeper than fists. Speak only when peace has returned.

8. DON’T COMPARE HER

Comparison kills contentment. She’s your wife, not a copy of someone else’s. Appreciate her individuality.

9. LEAVE THE PAST WHERE IT BELONGS

Don’t weaponize old mistakes. Handle today’s issue today. Mature men move forward.

10. NEVER ATTACK HER WOMANHOOD

Insults like “and you call yourself a woman?” are poison. You can’t build a queen by breaking her crown.

11. NEVER ATTACK HER DIGNITY

Belittling her intelligence or worth makes you a tyrant, not a leader. Gentlemen correct with grace.

12. CHOOSE THE RIGHT TIME

Correction in the heat of anger only fuels the fire. Wait for calm — that’s when wisdom works.

13. LEAD BY EXAMPLE

You can’t demand excellence while doing nothing. Help her, support her, and she’ll follow your lead naturally.

FINAL NOTE

If you want your wife to be an angel in your life, create a heaven for her to live in. A real man doesn’t dominate — he builds, protects, and leads with love.