DON'T DESPISE OTHERS DESPITE THEIR NATURE.

DON'T DESPISE ANYONE REGARDLESS OF  THEIR NATURE.  

When I was getting set to marry my wife Anwinli, Pastor x called her for a meeting and told her not to marry me. In shock, she asked him why, and he said "Ohis doesn't have a future. He is a miserable university graduate. He cannot afford to rent a house, he squats in his pastor's house in Asaba and anytime he is in Benin he sleeps in his mother's house. He doesn't have any direction. He is like a 'glorified' house boy, a church rat and we use him to do the dirty jobs in church. Most times he cannot afford transport and often takes 'along'. His ministry is not working and will never work..."

He went further to say, "So there is this other guy I think will be good for you..."

In great despair, Anwinli told me about the conversation. She was amazed that I was not a bit sad about it.

In affirmation, I told her, "Pastor x is right, his opinion about me is my current reality which is a fact but the truth is, I may not know my tomorrow but I know the God that knows my future. Follow me as I follow the One who knows our tomorrow."  

She didn't hesitate to ignore the odds and stick with me. Eventually, we became a team, Pastor x was very angry and we became his enemies.

However, few months down the line, I had a big break!

 God blessed my labour, I made a big hit! I made my first million at age 25 from a multimedia contract.

Quickly, I established a Multimedia Outfit that had a working staff on my payroll. God's blessing was so evident that I was opportuned to buy my 1st car and secure a comfortable apartment. 

It was the media outfit that later gave birth to 'The Winlos' you celebrate today.

Two years after, The Winlos became a global success. Our union is a success, and we hitherto have quite a handful of people from several nations of the world looking up to us as role models. 

-LESSON-

👉🏻Listen precious one, when God is writing your story, it doesn't matter who tries to write you off. People will write you off because they think they know you. They see you and they think that is your end. What they don't realize is the fact that all they know about you is the preamble to your Introduction and the main deal loading.

👉🏻Regardless of how a person's status is, we should NEVER despise anyone because everyone has a pregnant future and you have no clue what he or she will deliver. 

👉🏻Most leaders will rather condemn young ones than help them to the place of their destiny. As a leader, you must not like the choices of your followers. Do not be seen fighting them instead pray for them!

Leaders often exclude themselves from their followers process and are quick to call them 'sons' and 'daughters' when they succeed. This isn't right, don't be this kind of leader.

Not neglecting the fact that years later Pastor x introduced me to his friends saying 'this is one of my sons I'm proud of'. I was shocked. 

Indeed, SUCCESS HAS MANY FRIENDS. 

On the other hand, 

👉🏻Ladies, when God directs you to a man, his material level shouldn't be an issue if you understand the fact that you are a "favour carrier". The Bible says any man that marries you has obtained FAVOUR. The moment Anwinli agreed to marry me despite my obvious situation, something in the atmosphere changed, doors began to open, why? She understood she's favour!

Finally, people will always remember you for two things. The good you did for them or the good you never did. What part are you playing in that person's life? Your call!

Let's be part of lifting people up, giving them direction, giving them platforms, encouraging them and when they grow they will always remember you for good.

We Love YOU!

MEN WHO ABUSE WOMEN.

Men who abuse women... physically, mentally, emotionally... are often some of the nicest, most charming, friendly men you’ll ever meet.

And that’s exactly how they get away with it.

They smile in public. They hold conversations with ease. They seem respectful, well-mannered, maybe even generous. To the outside world, they’re the “good guy.” The one everyone likes. The one no one would ever suspect.

But behind closed doors? It’s a different story.

That charm turns cold. That “gentle tone” becomes condescending. That kindness flips into manipulation. The same man who compliments strangers can go home and slowly break down a woman’s confidence until she no longer recognizes herself.

Abuse doesn’t always show up with bruises. Sometimes it looks like silent control. Like guilt trips. Like gaslighting her until she questions her reality. Like isolating her from friends and family with a smile on his face and “good intentions” in his words. It’s emotional warfare… dressed up in charisma.

And the worst part? When she finally speaks up… people don’t believe her. Because he’s so nice. Because he would never. Because he seems like such a great guy. So she stays quiet. Or worse, she starts to wonder if she’s the problem. That’s how deep emotional abuse runs.

This is why so many women stay longer than they should. Not because they’re weak, but because psychological abuse is confusing. It’s a cycle of love and harm… of “I’m sorry” and “You made me do it.” It’s being made to feel crazy for having boundaries. It’s having your pain questioned because he smiles in public and only shows his darkness in private.

So let’s stop equating niceness with goodness. Let’s stop assuming someone can’t be an abuser because they’re well-liked or successful or soft-spoken. Abusers don’t wear name tags. They don’t always yell. Some of them walk through life with perfect masks... and leave destruction behind closed doors.

Believe her when she says something’s not right.

Support her even when it doesn’t “look” like abuse.

Because sometimes the most dangerous man in the room…

is the one everyone’s busy praising.

THE BEST WAY TO SERVE MEALS TO YOUR HUSBAND.

HOW TO SERVE YOUR HUSBAND'S MEAL

Some wives are used to buying fanciful bowls, plates, and serving dishes just to decorate their stores or kitchens.

They serve their husbands with any available dish, but when a visitor arrives, they go into the store to bring out the best plan. 

Listen carefully: NOBODY IS SUPERIOR TO YOUR HUSBAND.

To have the best of marriage, you must serve your husband’s meal as a king. If you have never been to a palace to see how a king is served, watch how it’s done in movies.

 just put rice and stew in one dirty flat plate for your husband. Serve the stew separately, and if possible, the meat or fish separately.

Get a beautiful cup for his water or juice.

Don’t allow your kids, siblings, housemaid, or anyone else to serve your husband’s meal (except for genuine reasons). Serve your king by yourself.

When you want to serve his meal, serve with honour and respect. Don’t just dump his food on the table.

You should also eat together with your husband sometimes. And if for any reason you have eaten before him, ensure you sit with him occasionally and ask if he is okay with the meal.

When he finishes eating, pack the plates yourself. The only place most men experience excellent meal service is at eateries or during outings. When you serve and treat your husband like a king, he will see you and treat you like a queen.

But when you serve or treat him like a slave, he might go out to get a better service—then you must not complain.

This teaching may sound odd to some, but for those who desire a peaceful and lasting marriage, it is a proven key to success.

A man’s heart moves toward where he is treated with respect.

Remember, little things we often ignore go a long way in keeping our homes happy and successful.

A husband and wife who eat together and pray together can conquer every marital obstacle.

WHAT YOU OUGHT TO KNOW TODAY

Many People assume strong relationships come from big romantic highs—surprise trips, expensive gifts, perfect proposals...✍🏽

Those fade quickly.

What actually sustains a partnership is steady, everyday reliability.

Psychologist John Gottman’s decades of research on thousands of couples found that stable, happy relationships maintain roughly 5 positive interactions for every 1 negative one, especially during conflict. Outside arguments, the ratio can climb even higher.

This doesn’t require constant grand effort. It builds through ordinary, repeated small acts:

- Remembering and asking follow-up questions about something minor they mentioned (a work stress, a friend’s news).

- Choosing patience and a calm tone when you’re irritated or tired.

- Doing exactly what you promised, even trivial things like picking up groceries or sending a quick text.

- Turning toward their “bids” for connection—small reaches like sharing a funny meme or complaining about traffic—instead of ignoring or dismissing them.

- Offering unasked help on tasks they dislike.

- Checking in genuinely: “How’s your head after that meeting?”

These accumulate into a buffer of trust and goodwill.

When real problems hit—financial strain, health issues, family drama—that reservoir of small positives prevents disconnection. Without it, one fight can spiral.

Big gestures impress briefly but can’t replace daily dependability.

Consistency isn’t flashy. It’s the quiet work that makes love last. Focus on the routine positives. They matter more than the fireworks.

THESE ARE SOME NOMS AND RULES THAT MAY REALLY HELP SOMEONE:.

 SOME SOCIAL RULES THAT MAY HELP SOMEONE:

1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to;

2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes.

3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner.

4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem;

5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public;

6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time;

7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative;

8. Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all;

9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you're;

10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.

11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately;

12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will.

13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next;

14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors' appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness;

15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect;

16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude;

17. Never give advice until you’re asked;

18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary;

19. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it;

20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech; and

21. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren.

22.After reading a good message try to say "Thanks for the message"

APPRECIATION remains the easiest way of getting what you don't have!

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