MEN, YOUR FRIEND'S WIFE CAN'T BE YOUR BESTIE AT ALL.

Listen up, Men

And when you find a friend,  don’t outwear your welcome; show up at all hours and he'll soon get fed up. [ Prov. 25 : 17 ]MSG

Your friend’s wife is not your friend. If that makes you uncomfortable, good. This isn’t about your comfort; it’s about boundaries, respect, and the unspoken code among men. 

The moment a woman says, “I do” to your friend, all those casual “bestie” vibes you thought were harmless need to end. Instantly. Permanently.

Let’s face it—no man wants another man, friend or not, hovering around his wife under the guise of friendliness or “just being close.” Familiarity breeds contempt, and whether you like it or not, crossing lines in the name of “friendship” is disrespectful. 

This isn’t about trust; it’s about integrity. It’s about understanding that boundaries don’t get blurred because you’re “like family.”

Here’s the hard truth: if you’re inserting yourself into your friend’s marriage, cracking “inside jokes” with his wife, or leaning into that “brotherly” vibe a little too often, you’re making it awkward. 

You might be feeding into your own ego, thinking, “We’re all just close,” but from the outside, it doesn’t look innocent. It looks intrusive. It’s not just his problem to address—it’s yours.

Your friend’s wife deserves respect—not in a superficial “I’m here if she needs anything” way, but in a way that shows restraint. 

Respect means maintaining distance and acknowledging that once she became his, that closeness you might have shared in the past is history. 

If she needs help, he’s got it covered. If they need support, there are proper channels—family, designated friends, or community support, not you stepping in as the “helpful friend.”

If you truly respect your friend, stay in your lane. Don’t get too familiar, don’t pry into her business, and don’t expect to be her confidant. 

Your loyalty lies with your friend, not in some perceived bond with his wife. She’s his priority